When Type A and Type B Live Together

Miss Type A-

All of my life I have been told I'm a Type A personality. I can see how that would be mostly true. After all, I'm competitive, impatient, and sometimes a little "overly" ambitious. And above most other things, I HATE wasting time. It drives me absolutely nuts. I like to walk fast, get where I need to go, and do what I want on my terms not everyone else's. It's hard for me to work in a group and it's really hard for me to "do it your way." I like my way. You know, because my way is the only way.

It's going to sound funny to you Type B's and you hardcore Type A's can probably relate, but I absolutely love when the next semester's class schedule comes out. I really enjoy looking at all of my options for classes between all of my majors and then checking the schedule to see how I can arrange things. I'll spend hours doing it. I love making lists and I really love organizing.

But I procrastinate to no end. I can't help it. I make all of my lists but can never seem to check them off. I either lose them or lose interest before hand. This would likely drive all you "pure" Type A's nuts!


Mr. Type B-


And then there's Dayton. Talk about laid back. This guy has lost his temper maybe only 20 times in five years. I always say he has the patience of Buddha and that he should lend some to this girl. He rarely gets irritated if people are driving slow in front of him or if someone else is running late. And I don't think I have seen him make a list ever. He's just easy going.

So it's funny when I start making my lists for school or things to do or whatever else I make lists about. He pretends to act interested as I rattle off all of my classes and I pretend like I'm oblivious to the fact he's not really listening.

Opposites Explode-

Then there's those other times. You know, when I'm a little too overbearing or pushy and Mr. Calm and Collected has had enough and walks off. Or when Mr. We'll Figure It Out Later Babe forgets to figure it out later and I have to frantically come in and fix it at the last minute. And our communication styles are a little... off set as well. Whereas Miss Upfront and Direct wants to hash it all out in the moment, Mr. Passive Aggressive wants to hold his tongue and avoid the fight only to let it explode later. And that's exactly what happens eventually.

Opposites Attract-
It would seem like opposites would be a great match, and don't get me wrong, we are... most of the time. Whenever I am obsessing over the little details, he's able to pull me back to the real world where "it's going to be ok." He's really good at keeping his cool when my head is spinning and I feel like I'm being pulled in a thousand different ways. Similarly, when he's being a little too relaxed and forgets that rent is due, I'm there to frantically make sure we get a check in the mail. Or when he can't quite remember what plans we made for when, little Miss Planner is there to remind him of the dates and times of each arrangement. So yeah, a lot of times it works just fine.

Overall-
We are young and we are happy. All I can say is when we fight, we all out battle. And when we love, it's the best thing I've ever experienced and wouldn't give it up for the world. I'm sure a lot of couples have our relationship dynamic, it would be hard not to with total extremes at both ends. Maybe if we were both more in the middle, things would be different. But they're not and I'm grateful.